Happy Mother’s day

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It’s early morning and I’m enjoying some peace and quiet before my tribe of six offspring (plus partners and grandchildren) invade for Sunday/Mother’s Day lunch. We tend to spend Mother’s Day here, at our house, because we have the biggest dining table for seating everyone. Besides, I love to cook for them all. I’m also looking forward to receiving my selection of lovely cards, flowers, chocolates and whatever other knick-knacks they decide I might like this year. I’ve never asked it of them, but I sincerely appreciate all that they bring. It’s like Christmas all over again. And to think, my birthday’s less than a month away, too.

Well, today I thought I’d have a think about what Mother’s day actually involves in the U.K. and how it originated. I won’t delve into how the celebration started in the U.S. in 1908 – which, I believe, is celebrated in May. There’ll undoubtedly be plenty of American bloggers to do that when the time comes. The actual term Mother’s Day, which stems from the American celebration, has now been adopted in many parts of the world and is usually celebrated either in March or May.

Here in the U.K. Mother’s Day is celebrated on the fourth Sunday of Lent, so the date varies from year to year, depending on the dates of Lent (in turn dependent upon the date of Easter). It was observed as early as the 16th Century, when it was known as Mothering Sunday. This was a time when people returned to the ‘mother church’ – the main church or cathedral in the area – for a special service called Laetare. The day was one of relaxation from normal Lenten observations; a day of hope with Easter being at last within sight.

Mothering Sunday was often the only time when the whole families could be together due to conflicting working hours on other days. Children and young people ‘in service’, as household servants, were given the day off to visit their families. Children often picked wild flowers on the way, either to put in church or give to their mothers. So eventually the tradition evolved into the giving of gifts to mothers.

But Mothering Sunday was by no means a new idea, even in the 16th Century. Celebrations of mothers and motherhood can be traced back to the ancient Greeks and Romans, who held festivals in honour of the mother goddesses Rhea and Cybele.

In the U.K. today, Mothering Sunday is known by the American term of Mother’s Day, as it is in most countries where the Day is celebrated. Many gifts are given to mothers, including the traditional flowers. Chocolates are also still popular, but a variety of other gifts are given as well. Unfortunately, as is to be expected, the cost of flowers rises dramatically as the special day approaches.

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Flower stall on Cheapside, London, displaying flowers for sale before Mother’s Day. Wikimedia Common. Attribution: Kate Jewell

In the early days, Mothering Sunday was also known as Refreshment Sunday because the fasting rules for Lent were relaxed for that day. The special food item associated with the Day was Simnel cake – a fruit cake with two layers of almond paste (marzipan) one on top and one in the middle. It is made with eleven balls of marzipan on top, representing the eleven disciples. (Judas is not included.) Traditionally, sugar violets would also be added.

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Simnel Cake. Both images: Wikimedia Commons. Attribution: James Petts, London, England.

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The name Simnel probably comes from the Latin word simila, referring to a fine wheat flour usually used for baking cakes. A legend has it that a man called Simon and his wife Nell argued over whether the cake for Mothering Sunday should be baked or boiled. In the end they did both, so the cake was named after both of them: SIM-NELL.

This short poem was written in 1648, by Robert Herricks:

I’ll to thee a Simnel bring

’Gainst thou goes a mothering

So that when she blesseth thee

Half that blessing thou’lt give to me

For me, Mother’s Day is also a day when I remember my own mother and the many Mother’s Days we shared. She passed away in 1998 and I still think of her a lot. But especially on Mother’s Day.

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About milliethom

I am a reader and writer of historical fiction with a keen interest in the Earth's history and all it involves, both physically and socially. I like nothing better than to be outdoors, especially in faraway places, and baking is something I do when my eyes need respite from my computer screen.
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55 Responses to Happy Mother’s day

  1. fac-n-fic says:

    Enjoy your day Millie…Don’t eat to much, well it’s your day so eat as much…

  2. draliman says:

    Thanks for the history! I was actually discussing the origin of the day when I was over at mum and dad’s for lunch earlier today. I was also curious as to why it was only a week after mum’s birthday this year and wondered if it was anything to do with the early Easter.
    I’ll email mum the link to this page so she can read all about it (a few months ago dad bought her a tablet and now there’s no stopping her!).

    • milliethom says:

      I know how your mum feels about her new tablet. I was the same when I first got mine! Yes, the dates of Shrove Tuesday, Lent and, therefore, Mother’s Day all depend on when Easter falls. And Easter is taken as the first full moon after the equinox on March 21. Or, at least, the first Sunday after the full moon. So Easter can be ay time between March 22 and April 25. I’ve often had my birthday on one of the Easter days. Thank you for liking the post, Ali. 🙂

      • draliman says:

        It was cool that you explained it all straight after my mum and I were wondering about it!
        My mum’s tablet has opened up a whole new world for her 🙂 Computers terrify her but she loves her tablet.

      • milliethom says:

        Computers terrrify me as well! Tablets are much easier to manipulate, although I wouldn’t be without my laptop for my writing. I’m really glad you found my post helpful. So many countries celebrate the Day on the same date as the U.S. (second Sunday in May) – including Australia.

  3. maddmombetty says:

    How sweet. I didn’t know anything about the tradition of Mother’s day in the U.K. Thanks for your informative and touching post. I always love to see what you have to say, Millie.

  4. Well I am so glad that you have done the research[and now I do not have to] I will thank also for noting the the difference between English and American, and I assume Australian? Yes, and all those other provinces[countries y’all claimed in the past] ( ;)-[ Hoping your sense of humor is as broad as I expect!

    • milliethom says:

      My sense of humour is as broad as any you could find, William. I thoroughly appreciate your clever comment. Britain’s past is to be wondered at! But it was the past, so what’s done is done, I suppose. In Australia, the Day is celebrated on the second Sunday in May, I think – the same as in the U.S. If no American or Australian bloggers do posts about it, i might have a go myself when the time comes. 🙂

  5. scrapydotwo says:

    I feel the same as you in the last paragraph! My mother passed away 2006

    • milliethom says:

      Yes, it’s hard to get over the loss of a mother. I was very close to mine, and miss her still. She was 77 when she died and I’d imagined her living well into her 90s. She was always so robust – untl cancer claimed her. Thank you for understanding, Scrapydo.

  6. I of July says:

    glad you enjoyed time with the family

  7. Happy Belated Mother’s Day! I didn’t even know UK celebrate Mother’s Day in March 😛 We celebrate it in May just like the one in America. BTW, I wonder what you received exactly. 😛

  8. I am so glad you got to spend some time with your children and grandchildren on Mother’s Day Millie! I hope it was a day full of joy for you!

  9. scribbley14 says:

    Hope you had a nice day ☺

  10. I almost thought your Mother’s Day was on my birthday (16th March). Happy Mother’s Day! – sounded like you had a fab time. ❤
    (We celebrate ours in the second week of May).

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  12. milliethom says:

    Reblogged this on Millie Thom and commented:

    Like Christmas, Easter, birthdays and a host of other anniversaries, Mother’s Day comes but once a year. And like all of the others, that’s part of the reason why it’s so special. I’ve had a wonderful day with the family so far, and have so many flowers that the house looks like a Garden Centre! Mother’s Day in the U.K. has an interesting history, and as I’ve nothing extra to add to what I wrote last year, I thought I’d simply reblog.
    Happy Mother’s Day to all mums everywhere. ❤

  13. Ann Koplow says:

    Happy Mother’s Day, Millie! ❤

    • milliethom says:

      Thank you so much, Ann. I’ve been ‘off’ my blog a lot since Christmas and will try to do a little bit of catching up this week. I know your Mother’s Day is in May – probably a much better idea to have it when it’s nice and warm. 🙂

  14. cynthiamvoss says:

    Happy Mother’s Day to you! I hope your day was wonderful and that you were celebrated 🙂

  15. Millie, Again i’ve learned much from one of your blogs. This is lovely and I wish you a wonderful Mothering Day Week (since I missed most of the day). Clare

    • milliethom says:

      Thanks, Clare. We had a lovely, but hectic, day. I love to cook for tham all but we had quite a houseful! Only our youngest wasn’t here because he’s in Iceland right now. He travels the world for his work, but we have a feeling that this was another holiday. For some reason, he loves Iceland. 🙂

      • Oh, I read a great blog post about Iceland at Christmas Time, Millie. It was about their tradition of giving books for Christmas gifts and then reading them for the holiday. The tradition dated back to a time when imported goods were very expensive, but paper was cheap. They even have a name for the tradition. I’ll check out my comments to December posts. The title of the Post was (paraphrasing)”I Think I’ll move to Iceland”. I believe it was on The Turtle Way, but not sure. I’ll check. I’m glad you had a nice Mum’s Day. Clare

      • milliethom says:

        Iceland clings to old traditions, and is somewhere I’d like to go one day. The Christmas tradition is a very sensible one, if you ask me. It sounds a wonderful way of encouraging children – and adults – to read. I’ll make a note of the blog to check out. Thanks for this, Clare.

      • The Blog is The Turtle Way and the tradition is called Christmas Book Flood Jolabokafloo She has links to articles about the celebration.

      • milliethom says:

        Thank you for that, Clare. 🙂

  16. sounds like a lovely day for you Millie! Hope you had a fun day! xx

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